Champion Challenge Day # 20 ” Hey Friends “

From this day forward we are now friends, so I will now be started my posts with ” Hey Friends! ” We have been through alot together in my short time as a blogger and I think we have progressed in our relationship. Everyone agree?

Hey Friends! Today is going to be a blessed day for you I believe and declare! Today we are starting a little bit different. We are going to fast forward my day because I feel we need to talk about something important today. Here we go Today started off as we all know by now Giving Thanks, coffee, errands, rest and work.

A few things were different today we had a hailstorm and we barely made it inside the restaurant before it started coming down with a lot of rain thunder and lightening. Personally I love storms but I’m glad the hail allowed us to get inside before it started to come hurdling down. Lol We were able to have a delicious lunch together before we both got to work. I was able to do my workout, stretch , meditation and work related tasks.

While I was there I was reading through some blog posts by other bloggers and I came acrossed this post that made me think about how many of us in the world are going through some really hard shit right now. Suffering quietly while still posting photos of themselves appearing to be happy and have it all together on social media.

When can we “normalize” being hot messes as we heal? Lol Her post was explaining her trauma she experienced and how it effected her and even though she stated the last event has recently happened a few months ago she is in therapy now and working on healing Brava!!

She’s not the only blogger who’s stories or poems about their trauma I’ve recently seen. There are so many different people who feel like they are suffering alone and that God doesn’t care about them if he exists at all. There are billions of people in this world, we have no excuses that someone should feel alone and that they have suffer alone or feel as if no one can or could help them.

It feels as if no matter what you do you’r screwed, there’s no room for hope, freedom, light or help. When as far as you can see it’s only the deepest darkest black you have ever seen. It seems to go on forever. There is no light at the end of the tunnel. Everyone around you staring at you with the eyes of predators who want to devour you and no one is there to protect you, not even the ones who in theory are indeed supposed to love and protect you.

Drowning in the physical, emotional, and spiritual pain and agony. Alone but surrounded by people. We start questioning our existence, if there is a God why didn’t he protect us, why didn’t any one for that matter protect us? We must be unlovable right? I mean there has to be something seriously wrong with us for these things to have happened to us, Right? I was wrong and you too are wrong if you are feeling this way.

Don’t worry, I’m not a preacher and I’m not going to start preaching to you. Lol What I can give you is a little bit of knowledge I have learned along the way and I’m not going to sugar coat it for you. We have to allow ourselves to heal, don’t push it down thinking it will go away. It will not!

In fact it will manifest into other problems such as self harm, eating disorders and the list goes on. In order to heal you have to set the intention with yourself that you are willing to allow yourself to feel the anger, sadness, hopelessness, self hate, hating others, resentment, abandonment again the list goes on.

It is going to absolutely suck but it doesn’t last forever. Journal about it or take walks, meditate, pray about it, do whatever works for you. It will get less and less painful. Start purposefully looking for things to be grateful for. It may feel unnatural at first but just go with it. Everyday look around and send thanks for at least one thing.

Set the intention to forgive. I know this sounds absurd after what they did to you and how they hurt you. Revenge is an easier word to hear right now then forgive. But if you truly want to be free you have to begin to forgive them and then ourselves. Give it a little while and you will begin to feel more free and some of the dark heaviness will lift.

During my healing process I had a dream that I was with myself as a child around the age of 3. She was adorable but she was scared, hurt, insecure, sad and felt abandoned. She didn’t tell me this I could just feel it. I picked her up in my arms and held her tight.

I told her everything was going to be ok and how smart, brave and kind she is. I don’t remember the rest of the dream but it made me realize that inside all of us we have our kid selves. I think they call it our inner child and we need to heal that part of ourselves as well.

Sometimes healing can hurt our egos because we have to really look at ourselves and this included our flaws or the parts of ourselves we are not so proud of. This was hard for me at first because I thought it meant I had to beat myself up about them for months on end. Finally after many long painful months full of self pity and shame I realized forgiving myself for not being perfect and making mistakes was equally as important as forgiving others. It sounds easy peasy but it’s not. Lol

We can get through it though because we are not Victim’s any more, we are not even just Survivor’s anymore, we are Warriors in the battle of life! we are not who or what others say about us. We are what and who we show the world we are and who we say we are.We are not our families, we don’t have to carry around family curses we are the ones who brake them! We are not who our abusers said we are, let’s start letting that go right now!

Before everyone stars rolling their eyes hear me out. The definition of a Warrior is: a brave or experienced soldier or fighter. Related words for warrior are: Soldier, knight, battler, fighter, hero, gladiator, samurai and veteran. We are indeed brave and experienced fighters. So ladies and gentlemen that makes us Warriors!

Long before us people were suffering and so they will be long after us. We have never been promised a life without suffering. In this life because each of us are given free will and each of us at some point were suffering and bumbling through life people hurt each other. In some cases they hurt each other in monstrous ways. These are the unfortunate facts in life.

We are like Rocky, we are in the ring of life. Some rounds we really get pummeled, we get punched and punched again and again. Our vision gets blurry from the blood running into our left eye, our nose is broken limiting our oxygen, we can no longer feel the left side of our face, we don’t know for sure but we think we just spit out one of our teeth and we keep getting knocked down. You know what though? We get back up and we go to our corner, we wash the blood from our eye, we splash some cold water on our face and we go back in swinging ready to face the world again.

Sometimes we give up for awhile and let the world beat iur will to live out of us, sometimes we get a second wind a burst of energy going into the next round ready to kick some ass and we remember what we are fighting for. In the end we are going to keep getting back up. We will achieve victory sometimes. We will win a few rounds and feel on top of the world. This is some of the beauty in life that is so hard to see when you are in the darkness.

I’ve said it before and i’ll say it again the words Healing, Faith, Trust, Love and Forgiveness are all words that are so easily rolled off of our tongues. However the actual act of healing your trauma, the act of having Faith in yourself, others and God, Loving, Forgiving and Trusting in yourself and others are not for the weak of heart. Absolutely 100% not. Don’t be scared though because you’ve got this.

Don’t worry about trying to be perfect, just forget about that. We get up each day find at least one thing we are grateful for, do our best to be good to others, do our best to better versions of ourselves then we were yesterday, take care of ourselves. Then before long these things wont feel so foreign to us. Before long forgiveness and healing will begin,we will begin to feel a better sense of self worth, we start to see things in a different light and make adjustments in our day to day lives that will effect our lives for the better in the near future. Naturally we will start to gravitate towards more positive people, places and things. Being more aware of what we put into our bodies and minds by being aware of the foods we eat, music we listen to, and what we are watching.

Know better then we did yesterday, be the best versions of ourselves today,so we can be our best selves and have a more for filling life tomorrow.