Champion Challenge ” Forgiving Ourselves is a Level Up! “

Hey Friends! May Peace be upon you, around you and especially within you! Today we woke up to another foggy autumn day that immediately had me thinking about abandoned castles, thick forests, cobblestone streets, antique stores, small pubs and being in a sleepy seaside town somewhere.

Per usual Thanks was given, coffee was made, Elvis was fed and given ample amounts of morning love. We all said buongiorno as everyone woke up and we all got started on our day. Elvis is definitely living his best cat life with all the leaves that continue to fall to the ground.

You can find him in the center of a fresh new piles of leaves that my husbands dad meticulously gathers each day. When he wakes up from his naps the leaves have a perfect circle in the center of the pile of leaves. It’s pretty cute.

This morning I did my usual morning warm up walk, stretched, jumped on the stationary bike, did my work outs and meditation. I then jumped in the shower to get ready for the day. Did some things around the house to be helpful and ease the work for others then started with my tasks.

Work and blog related tasks were first on my list, then Italian class for 2 hours. I broke up my work and blog related tasks into 4 hours in the morning and 4 hours in the evening to help break up the monotony.

Today’s food for thought is forgiving ourselves. Just This morning as I went on my morning walk I found myself thinking about something I had said a few years ago that I worried could have been taken in the wrong way.

Then I really let my mind wander and started to think about other stupid things in the past even jumping as far back as child hood that I have said or done that I feel bad about. Like in 2nd grade when I stole a candy bar.

This spiraling can really get out of hand if I let it to. I can start to replay scenarios over and over again in my mind. Thinking of ways I could have handles each situation better almost as if I’am trying to hurt myself all over again to prove somehow how sorry I’am.

It is somewhat normal to look back at our slips, stumbles and falls. Feeling the guilt, pain, embarresment , disappointment and shame for our lack of judgement in those moments.

When we refuse to forgive ourselves for our mistakes we are holding on to how avoidable these things were and how we hurt others and ourselves in the end.

Along side of these feelings of pain come questions we ask ourselves like Why didn’t we have more strength in the moment. Why didn’t we handle such and such situation differently? Why did we make the decisions that we made?

We should never have become friends with that person, we should have listened more closely to advice, why didn’t we believe in ourselves more and so on .

So look… the truth is it happened and there is nothing we can do now to change whatever the situation was. We F*cked up and we made some bad decisions. We can continue to cry about it and continue to beat ourselves up about it OR we can try another approach.

We have all been blessed and damaged in life. I think we do ourselves an injustice to dwell on our past mistakes. Yes we will always have things to work on in ourselves but to beat ourselves up over mistakes we have made in our past is like beating a dead horse.

It is now time if you are brave enough to sit ourselves down, look ourselves in the eyes and allow ourselves to start the process of forgiving ourselves.

The past is done, the future isn’t here yet, we only have right now. Do we want to spend our now beating ourselves up? Or do we want to apply the saying ” know better, do better,” and be the best versions of ourselves in the now.

Ask yourself this question..did I go to God for forgiveness? If the answer is yes, then if God has forgiven us, who in the world do we think we are to not forgive ourselves? Let’s let it go and remind ourselves of how far we have come.

We are no longer the same people we were back then. We have grown and healed. We have realized knowing better equals doing better. When we forgive ourselves we give ourselves permission to thrive not just survive.

We have depths and things about us we have yet to even learn. We haven’t even begun to figure ourselves out yet. There is so much more we can expand and receive. So while we are working on ourselves and forgiving everyone and everything else let’s also begin working on forgiving ourselves.

Let’s stop beating up on ourselves and focus on the now , the moment that we can actually do something about. In the moment we can be sure to not repeat the same mistakes which is a great deal more then we can do about the past, which is absolutely nothing.