Hey Friends! May this post find you with Peace upon you, around you and especially with in you. The past few days have been foggy and over cast here but still magical in it´s own way.
This morning we started per usual with giving Thanks, Elvis getting some morning love and his first round of breakfasts. He has been very vocal and demanding these past few days since we have returned home and guess what? We love him any way!
Look at those claws and eyes with such intensity. We stumbled around making our coffee and saying buongiorno as everyone woke up.
This morning was cold but I went on a quick 30 minute walk, then started on the stationary bike as soon as I got back home. I then did my Pilates and stretching.
I did not meditate until after lunch and I have to say it as kind of refreshing to switch up my schedule. All if our meals are delicious here but yesterday my husband made some rather scrumptious meals. Yes it tastes as good as it looks if not better!
Today I feel like it was a flop because I was supposed to wake up at 5 am. Today was supposed to be the first day… even though I did accomplish quite a few things I feel blah because I didn set my alarm for 5AM I set it for 5PM
It is fine tomorrow can be the start of waking up at 5am. I have been feeling like there is not enough time in the day to do everything I have to do and want to do. So we will be trying the waking up at 5am rule for the next week to see how we feel about it and if it changes anything.
Today´s food for thought came to me during a recent situation in my life. Any one else feel like they have received resistance from friends and family, or stopped contact with them all together since we have been on this path of being our best selves and making changes in our lives?
It is confusing right? As long as we allow them to treat us how they want to and do whatever they want everything is ALL GOOD,
As soon as we set some healthy boundaries and no longer tolerate disrespectful behavior we are now the enemy. Somehow now we have become the reason for any and all bad things that have ever happened in the universe.
Sometimes it does actually end up being our own people who are the ones that try to break us. It is really strange when we are bettering ourselves how some people react.
The people who in theory you should never have to worry about disrespecting us or saying some nasty lies about us seem to be the ones doing exactly that.
If it was any one else yes it would still hurt us but these specific people we held to higher standards so it hurt like they were standing behind us and literilly stabbing us in the backs.
Not a quick clean stab either, they took their time and while the blade was still in our backs they began to wiggle it around purposefully trying to hit our vital organs. ( big hugs from me to you.. I know it hurts )
The first step to healing from these type of people is accepting them for who and what they really are. We have to accept the true colors that people show us.
No matter who we thought they were or how they used to act. We have to stop romanticizing people who are hurting us. Their repeated mistakes are not accidents, that is their behavior.
We do not need to contact them for closer and tell them how we feel. They already know how we feel. They knew when we told them before.
They knew when they watched us cry and got angry instead of comforting us. They did not care then and they do not care now. We need to take our dignity and close the door.
For us to make the active decision to never speak to someone again and we deeply cared for or loved that person. That speaks volumes!
Because it means that we are fully aware that now we will have to go through the pain and grief over having to remove them. Yet we are still choosing that pain over having them in our lives.
Sometimes some people will continue to be hateful even having no contact with them. They continue to spread their hate and this is when you know that they are truly miserable in their own lives. Pray for them and keep it moving.
If they are continuing to kick dirt on your name while wearing the shoes we gave them, that´s fine.. The people who really know you will know better then to believe their trash and everyone else will find our in time. Our actions speak louder then anyone´s words.
Even though it is easier said then done we need to forgive them and not let it fester inside of us. We have to check ourselves as well to see if there is any merit to what they are saying about us.
If there is, apologies are in order if at all possible and we need to change our ratchet ways. If their words has no merit and we did indeed check ourselves but came up empty handed… Well then..
All we can do is put distance between ourselves and them. It is ok if our angels are irritating their devils right now and do not listen to their hate. Shit happens and we move on in our life.
I think it is time for us to gather up all the broken pieces of our hearts, weld them together piece by piece, fix our posture and realize that we have nothing to worry about.
We walk it like we talk it, we are living in gratitude, we are being the best versions of ourselves each day, we are healing old traumas, growing and glowing. In essence we are minding our own business and that is exactly what they should be doing.
Let´s continue to keep it classy no matter how bad it hurts. We pray for them, give it to God and continue on our Champion Challenge of being better versions of ourselves.
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12 thoughts on “Champion Challenge ¨ They can not break us! ¨”
Damn AKA you are on target 🎯. Started making changes and setting boundaries and I went from having a bunch of fake friends to having one. Lmfao 😆 yes most definitely it is usually our own people. It is hurtful and hard to understand the actions of others. Forgiveness is a good step and I respect that you added to take personal accountability. A God given wonderful topic and post AKA ☠️🧤🤠
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I have had the worst time since I have been being the best version of myself. I have become the black sheep in my family and I used to be the favorite 🥶. My friends now believe I am too wierd to hang out with and some have accused me of making the changes in my life for attention.👀👄. I feel so alone and alienated from my family and friends.
Same here brutha.
Same shit has been happening to me. I have become so comfortable spending time by myself that I have become very choosy about who I give my time to. I have one reliable trustworthy caring person in my life and I am very grateful and happy for this.
We are not alone we have each other. We have been our own community here and will continue to be. Love you guys ❤️
I was drawn in by the title and lord knows how much I needed to hear this message this week. 🖖🏻 Thank you AKA 😊 I really appreciate your support I also admire your sassiness. 🌋 Big hug back to you and thank you again 1,000,0000,0000
They took their time while the blade was still in our backs and they began to wiggle it around trying to hit our vital organs.;; Big hugs back AKA I know exactly what you mean and damn girl that was deep. Yes to have the strength to go no contact and choose to go through the pain and grief over having them in our lives says everything that needs to be said.
This is why I love how AKA writes. She has so much soul to her that it pours out of her in her writing. You can feel her anger and feelings of betrayal but she is a warrior and won’t let them win
If they continue to kick dirt on your name wearing the shoes you gave them.💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀☠️☠️☠️☠️ You killed it with that sentence 🏆🏆🏆 time to gather up the broken piece’s if our hearts weld them together piece by piece fix our posture and move on.yes AKA YES ✨✨✨
It’s ok if our Angels are irritating their demons 🤣🤣🤣 that’s the best thing I have ever heard 😂. Big hugs back to you AKA 🤗 you are a breath of fresh air for me personally and I am so glad I came across your blog page. It’s been a lot of reading 😅 but I have enjoyed every second of it. The benefits of reading your posts have been like having a very deep loving supportive friend who somehow seems to always know the right topic to discuss. Love you girl 😍
very well written sweet lady
I really needed these last few posts of yours. Thank you for taking the time to write it out so well. Have a very blessed day.