Champion Challenge ” Are we the problem?”

Hey Friends! May this post find you with Peace upon you, around you and especially within you. Today per usual we woke up gave our Thanks and started making some coffee.

We gave Elvis some morning love, gave him his breakfast and said buongiorno to everyone as they woke up. My husband went off to do is Champion stuff and I got started on mine as well.

It rained last night so it was a cold, damp type of Autumn morning. Even Elvis did not want to chill outside this morning and we did not blame him.

This morning I did my meditation, stretch, I did a 45 second plank, 15 minutes on the stationary bike, and my Pilates work out. After my work out I did some cleaning and organizing and got ready for the day.

Italian class was next so I did an hour this morning and another hour after lunch. Work and blog related tasks were next and then I made phone calls and sent emails. Those are my two least favorite tasks.

My husband made me some home made salsa a few days ago that was one of the best salsas I have ever had. Since being in Italy I have had a hard time finding some good salsa and now problem solved thanks to him!

Today’s food for thought is the question that we all have to ask ourselves from time to time. ARE WE THE PROBLEM in whatever situation we are dealing with or relationship we are in? Is it US?

Yes guys!! I hate to be the barer of this bad news but we are indeed the problem when it comes to our own lives because we each carry around our past trauma around with us and if left unhealed it can lead to toxic behaviors. These behaviors sometimes can effect the lives of those around us.

Here are some examples of some behaviors that may mean that we are indeed the problem…

Are we are the ones that bring the Drama to every situation? Are we constantly over exaggerating our emotions? When the slightest inconvenience happens to us does it become the end of the world and every one else’s fault around us?

Do we go around making everything about us? Convinced that everyone is talking about us because we are so busy talking about everyone else?

Here are a few signs that we could be the ones bringing the Drama. Be honest with yourself about this as hurtful as it may feel. Because we can’t fix something if we don’t know what we are trying to fix right?

Are we the ones that want all the attention on us at all times? Craving the spotlight at work, at home and with friends. When we walk into a room do we make a big entrance to let everyone know we have arrived so we can be the center of attention.

Are we criticizing everything? Nothing is good enough and there is something wrong with everything.Always having something negative to say about everything and everyone?

Has stressing out become our Motto? Can you often be found surrounded by stress? Do even the simple things in life like forgetting to answer an email send you over the edge?

4. Do we make everything about us? Does every conversation we are in become about us? Because we are constantly injecting our own experiences, or bragging about our jobs, or talking about our own feelings and not giving the other person room to talk about theirs?

5. Let’s ask ourselves.. when talking to others do we tend to have no filter? We just say whatever we are thinking without consideration of others feelings or the consequences?

If we answered yes to any of these… we could indeed be part of the problem. Remember we are a work in progress right! If we checked off a few of those traits in the causing drama area, just breathe it will be ok!

We got this! We continue to be better versions of ourselves everyday and it is a matter of knowing better so we can do better.

Another example of the behaviors that may mean we could be the problem, is the inability to face the consequences of our actions with out playing the victim.

For example… we go outside in a blizzard at below zero temperatures with out a jacket hat or gloves for whatever reason. The next day we are sick with a fever, runny nose, sore throat, the whole shibang.

Instead to think perhaps we should not have gone outside in a blizzard with out a jacket and learning from our mistake. We lay in bed sick thinking about how mother nature herself is out to get us and making everyone’s life around us miserable.

This is hard to hear for a lot of us but the state of our lives is consequences of our own actions both good and bad. Consequences do not have to be negative it is the result of the actions we put in to our lives. So in the end we have the control of which consequences we receive in our lives.

Gather around you guys there is a story that I think you will like to hear and it goes something like this. One day a King called three of his minister guys, gave them each a bag and ordered them to go into the garden and fill the bags with the best fruits the garden had to offer.

The all went into the garden searching for fruits to fill their bags with. The first minister took his time, chose each fruit carefully to be sure they were beautiful, delicious and nutritious.

The second minister thought the King is not going to look deep inside the bags so he took the lazy ruite and filled half the bag with rotten fruit and the other half with good fruit.

The third minister was something else. He was so lazy that he filled the bag with grass and sticks because he thought the King would not check at all.

Once back at the castle the King didn’t even look at any of their bags and ordered them all to go to the dungoun for two months.

The first minister ate well from his bag and at the end of the two months he was happy and healthy. The second minister was sick from his rotten fruit and the third minister dies because he could not survive off of grass and sticks.

Moral of the story is do good and the consequences of our actions will be good. Vice versa goes for our bad actions. Do bad and the consequences of our actions will be bad ones.